SamadhiMuse

         Sat. eve.                             Dec 7, 1985
              Dear Dennis,
              (special guy!)
              It's so nice we can talk with each other about
         anything.  It isn't everyone, as you know, I can rap
         with like that.
              I'm truly sorry your relationship didn't work out.
          An exclusive, deep & trusting man/woman relationship
         is so hard to find unless both people are willing to
         "really work" at it together.  Better to find out now
         what she was about than months or even years later.  I
         can't believe she had much substance in her to leave
         you for some jerk off the street.
              As a friend who really loves you I must tell you
         this:  Any woman truly in love with a man would not be
         able to understand his semi-involvement with his
         ex-wife; not if she eventually wanted him truly, with
         commitment, for only herself.  The majority of woman,
         real woman, DO WANT THIS.
              My friend John is not divorced yet but doesn't see
         his ex- I don't think.  He tells me he is starting
         proceedings the first of new year.  I won't continue
         seeing him if he doesn't -- NOT BECAUSE of selfish
         reasons on my part but rather that he should get on
         with his life & perhaps find a beautiful relationship
         he never thought possible.  (of course I can't be hurt
         anymore either).  Loving, feeling, caring, etc. are
         magnified to unbelievable boundaries when just two
         people have that extra energy & sharing for "just each
         other".
              We find so much about ourselves in times of
         loneliness and stress.  I work everyday to get a bit
         more centered & not to crave the male to the point of
         feeling unsatisfied with my own life, BY MYSELF.
         Needing the opposite sex is so natural, but to the
         extreme it's dangerous.  It's safer to see more than
         one person;  but in the end, where does it get you?
              Dennis, I don't mean to be going on and on, I'm
         just speaking from the heart.  ____Since I've left Tim,
         I've done a lot of re-evaluating of myself & what makes
         ME happy.  Sometimes just to get away by myself to
         think helps.
              Tried calling you tonight to see if you wanted to
         drop by.  (Since I assume you're a free man on
         weekends, now).  I've been cramming, like the word, for
         days.  What a relief when these finals are over.
              Hope to see you between 18, and Christmas.
                                    Love,
                                    Kathy

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