Sat. eve. Dec 7, 1985
Dear Dennis,
(special guy!)
It's so nice we can talk with each other about
anything. It isn't everyone, as you know, I can rap
with like that.
I'm truly sorry your relationship didn't work out.
An exclusive, deep & trusting man/woman relationship
is so hard to find unless both people are willing to
"really work" at it together. Better to find out now
what she was about than months or even years later. I
can't believe she had much substance in her to leave
you for some jerk off the street.
As a friend who really loves you I must tell you
this: Any woman truly in love with a man would not be
able to understand his semi-involvement with his
ex-wife; not if she eventually wanted him truly, with
commitment, for only herself. The majority of woman,
real woman, DO WANT THIS.
My friend John is not divorced yet but doesn't see
his ex- I don't think. He tells me he is starting
proceedings the first of new year. I won't continue
seeing him if he doesn't -- NOT BECAUSE of selfish
reasons on my part but rather that he should get on
with his life & perhaps find a beautiful relationship
he never thought possible. (of course I can't be hurt
anymore either). Loving, feeling, caring, etc. are
magnified to unbelievable boundaries when just two
people have that extra energy & sharing for "just each
other".
We find so much about ourselves in times of
loneliness and stress. I work everyday to get a bit
more centered & not to crave the male to the point of
feeling unsatisfied with my own life, BY MYSELF.
Needing the opposite sex is so natural, but to the
extreme it's dangerous. It's safer to see more than
one person; but in the end, where does it get you?
Dennis, I don't mean to be going on and on, I'm
just speaking from the heart. ____Since I've left Tim,
I've done a lot of re-evaluating of myself & what makes
ME happy. Sometimes just to get away by myself to
think helps.
Tried calling you tonight to see if you wanted to
drop by. (Since I assume you're a free man on
weekends, now). I've been cramming, like the word, for
days. What a relief when these finals are over.
Hope to see you between 18, and Christmas.
Love,
Kathy
— Copyright 1965-2008 by Dennis Gallagher —